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Those who have read my column know that I was married in September last year.
It was a lovely ceremony, and the photos are great. As for my dear husband and me, life is pretty much the same. Unlike some newlyweds, we lived together before we were married. That's right: We lived in sin, but neither of us believes in that nonsense.
Now, there is an extreme pressure coming from people in our lives. It is subtle, but it's there. Now that we are married, the expectation is that I get pregnant. I am not saying they know what they're doing. but it is starting to get on my nerves.
Questions get floated all the time asking if I am expecting yet or if I am getting baby crazy yet. Believe me, I am aware of the "baby crazy" stage that women endure, but I have not felt anything like that. I know that I want a kid someday, but now is not the time.
I feel like society in America has this expectation that there is an order in which we are supposed to live our lives. I say people should mind their business about this one. Yes, babies are exciting, but does the general public need to lose their minds every time a woman finds out she is expecting? Do they need to flip their lids after a woman gets married because "now she can get pregnant?"
Right now my priority in life is to enjoy married life and work. The husband and I are happy where we are for now.
Another part of me doesn't want to bring a kid into a world that is going through so much right now. I know that's probably naive because the world will always have something going on. Turmoil comes with more population.
The point is I want to have a kid when I am well and ready, not because society dictates I should after I have been married.
To women everywhere, whatever your situation is, just know you have a fellow woman who gets the societal pressure.
